One of the most common instances men run into when attempting to give their woman a full body squirting orgasm, is a sudden objection from her conscious mind. You know what I mean… You’re using techniques to explicitly send a flood of pleasure to your woman’s “sensitive spots”, and she loves how it feels. Then out of nowhere, she tells you to stop! There’s no fireworks, no sudden splash of ecstasy, no explosion of pleasure pulsing through her body causing her to shake uncontrollably. Nope, instead of giving into the intense sensation and letting go to orgasm, she abruptly interrupts her OWN chance to orgasm!
Why on earth would she deny her gift of primal pleasure? Well actually there could be a lot of reasons. Listen guys, when she gets to the edge, and is about to have a full body orgasm, the sensation can be overwhelming or down right scary in her mind. Especially if she’s never had a Vaginal Orgasm before. Her conscious mind might throw dozens of objections her way, and the notion of pushing forward or letting go could be scary in that moment.
The conscious mind doesn’t have a big role in such a primal act, however it will easily play the role as the Saboteur during sex if left unchecked. The conscious mind has been sorting out and solving problems all day long… Why not throw in some more worries when the pleasure party begins too? After all, that’s how we operate throughout 99% of the rest of our day to keep in control of our actions.
However, during sexual arousal the conscious mind needs to step aside. She needs to have a clear mind, and be absolutely present in order to become “out of control” and orgasm. That means no conscious objections telling her to pull back with nonsense thoughts of “What if I pee on him?” “Will I create a mess?” “Will he judge me?” “Am I being too naughty?” and the list could go on forever.
In our role as men, we can’t exactly jump inside her mind and control what she’s thinking. However, we can influence the “State” she goes into before and during our attempt to use friction on her sweet spots. This is where understanding the full picture of how her body and mind need to come together to orgasm is so important.
One way to illustrate this is using the concept of Threshold Consciousness. Threshold Consciousness is the mental state of someone who is moving towards sleep or wakefulness but has not yet completed the transition. In other words, it’s the state of dozing off to sleep, or just waking up. During this state the mind is completely relaxed, and there is very little conscious thought going on. This State is very similar to the state women go into when they have an orgasm.
What if you got her to this state and never really let her get out of it? You can then bypass her conscious objections all together and voila… Orgasm Magic! Her body will do what it naturally wants to do, which is let go and have a full body orgasm. She can leave the objections at the door, no matter what the cause. So what are some ways to do this?
Deep Massage Blended Into Stimulation: This is by far one of the easiest ways to do this. You’ve maybe heard me talk about using Massage to get her to Orgasmic State. That is because it allows her mind to become deeply relaxed. Some guys ask, “What if she starts to fall asleep?” My rely is: “GOOD!” When she starts to doze off from the massage, her mind is becoming quiet. Don’t let her fall completely asleep, but when she gets to the transition just before falling asleep, that’s the sweet spot. Now it’s time to turn Massage, into Arousal while keeping her body and mind in the same relaxed state. If you do it right, you’ll blend the massage into sexual escalation, then into vaginal stimulation in a fluid way as to not even give her mind the chance to start it’s typical chatter. If it ends with her body shaking, the bed wet, and her looking you in the eyes in amazement then you’ve done your job.
Wake Up Sex: Roll over in the morning and start by giving her a passionate wake up kiss. Assuming you’re not waking her up in the middle of the night, and she’s not late to get up for work, she should welcome the gesture. Transition that kiss into touching, and next into arousal. The basic idea here is to wake her up aroused and transition into stimulating her G Spot or A Spot before her conscious mind ever really gets the chance to start “thinking”. When she starts out in this “State” she’ll easily be able to orgasm. If you do it right she’ll go from “Wake Up Kiss” to “Oh my god, that was incredible, what did you do to me?” without knowing what hit her.
Try it out, and let me know what you think. Remember, the key is to help her get out of her own way so that she doesn’t have to “think” at all!