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Hey, what’s up, guys. Jason Julius here. And in this video, I want to answer a question that I got, and that question is, can massage help her get to orgasm, or can you use massage as a means to get her to orgasm? And the short answer is yes, it’s a great tool to get her very present in the moment, very relaxed.
I remember when I first started learning everything that I could about female orgasms, 16, 17 years ago, there was a school of thought that massage was what it took to give her a vaginal orgasm. There was several teachers who would teach that you would massage her for hours and get her very deeply relaxed, and then go to give her a vaginal orgasm. Well, over time, I’ve learned that, while it is a good tool, if we want to be really aware of why that might work, it is to actually understand that when you give her a massage, you’re actually helping to get her mind into that deep moment of presence.
And when you consider the fact that the mind plays such a huge role in her allowing herself to have that orgasm, because remember we want to hit the accelerator by stimulating her in a certain way, figuring out what she likes, maybe it’s clitoral stimulation, G spot stimulation, A spot stimulation, and all those different ways that we can really hit the gas. But one of the biggest things is making sure that she’s lighting up on the brakes. And in order to get her into that orgasmic state, which is a state of presence, it’s a state of being in the moment, in order to do that, yes, massage can help break her pattern that she might be in of her physiology, what she’s focusing on in the meaning of the situation in such a way that gets her very present, but it doesn’t necessarily mean that massage is the only way to do that.
Once we understand that it’s getting her into that state that allows her to let off of the brakes, then we have a little bit more insight as to why a massage might be a great tool to help get her into that orgasmic state. Because if we didn’t understand that it might be that she still has the brakes on, anything that is hitting the brakes for her, whether she doesn’t trust and respect you, or maybe she’s worried about getting pregnant, all these different things that come from society, maybe she’s feeling a bit of shame in the moment, maybe she’s very stressed out, all these things can be a variety of ways that her mind might be hitting the breaks unconsciously. And if we’re not aware of that, then we just think the massage is going to get her to the orgasm.
It doesn’t matter how good of a massage you give her, if she doesn’t trust and respect you and want to give herself to you in that moment, then she’s really not going to let off the breaks in such a way where she goes into that orgasmic state and allows that orgasm to just happen naturally. So while I love massage as a tool to get her to orgasm, if we really want to understand what’s going on, we really want to think of it from a level of, what might be hitting the breaks, and how can I help her get more present? And by all means, massage is a great way to do that.
So I hope that answers that question. And if you guys have any more questions, leave them in the comments below. And hit the subscribe button if you like this kind of content, you want more videos. Make sure you check out all the other videos on my channel. And if you’re interested in learning more about giving your woman amazing orgasms, make sure and visit my blog at jasonjulius.com/squirt for a free educational video on how to do that. So I’ll see you guys in the next video.