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I’ve received a few questions from guys on Facebook and through the newsletter who are having success giving their wives and girlfriends “normal” orgasms, but they haven’t gotten her to squirt yet and they want to know why. The email usually goes something like this…
“Great stuff Jason! I’m giving my wife tons of orgasms by using your techniques, but I haven’t quite gotten her to soak the bed yet. Am i doing something wrong?”
It’s a good question and since a few people have been asking it, I thought I’d just create this video and answer it for everyone.
As you should know by now, getting a woman to orgasm is a two part road of leading both her body and her mind. Without one or the other you’re not going to have much success. There are also a few right ways and a lot of wrong ways to go about this, and is something I cover fully in The Female Orgasm Blueprint.
If you’re unsure what the heck I’m talking about, go through the first couple modules of the Blueprint and it’ll all make sense. You can get access here
To keep the common thread of the questions I’m going to assume you can already give her “normal” orgasms and are looking how to get her to squirt. Which by the way is pretty normal, you gotta walk before you can run.
In some cases she’s probably just not comfortable yet with squirting and soaking the sheets. And she’s actually working harder on holding back the orgasm than she is at letting it happen. In these cases you just need to keep assuring her that it’s okay and to just “push it out.”
In other cases she’s wanting it to happen, but it’s just not and she doesn’t know why. The reason is because she likely has weak pelvic floor muscles or PC muscles.
When a woman has weak pelvic floor muscles it can be much harder for her to reach orgasm and when she does, it doesn’t feel as powerful as it could, and she’s certainly not going to be able to squirt.
To strengthen her pelvic floor muscles she needs to perform Kegel Exercises. Which is the act of contracting and relaxing the muscles that form part of the pelvic floor. These muscles are also responsible for stopping and starting the flow of urine.
First she needs to locate the muscles so she knows which ones to “work out”. The easiest way for her to locate her PC muscles is the next time she’s using the restroom instruct her to stop the flow of urine and have her take notice which muscles she’s “squeezed”(these are her PC Muscles).
Now that she knows which muscles to squeeze she can move on to doing the exercises. The great thing about Kegel exercises is she can do them anywhere and no one will ever know.
Have her squeeze her PC muscles as hard as she can, then hold for 3 – 5 seconds, then release and relax for 5 seconds and repeat.
I recommend starting out with doing 3 sets of 10 reps (squeeze, hold, release) with a 2 minute rest in between sets.
She’ll want to do this 3 to 4 times a day.
As her PC muscles get stronger and stronger she’ll notice her orgasm getting more and more powerful and she’ll be soaking the bed in no time 😉
I would encourage everyone to share this post with their partners because not only are Kegel exercises great for improving her orgasm, they are also great at preventing various other health problems.
P.S. I also wrote up a blog post talking specifically about Kegel exercises for
Kukrinsky, richard e. says
I’ve been with a woman for 3 years. Nice sex, but she has never had an orgasm of any type. She says she enjoys sex anyway, but I’d like to get her off.
I’ve tried it all. G spot, fingers, tongue, clit, foreplay for hours, body oils, the Whole smear, but she makes love juice like mad, like a dog frothing at the mouth, but she just CAN’T come.
Jason…regarding squirting. One thing you might mention in your program is that some of these women may actually BE having squirting orgasms but they might not be soaking the sheets because they are “retrograde orgasms” and the ejaculate is being absorbed back up into the bladder. Check out Dr. Laura Behrman’s comments on Oprah:
Keep getting the word out…..I hope you are MASSIVELY successful!!!
Hi Jason, great videos, thanks!
My girlfriend has started squirting almost every time we have sex. This is great, but I still can’t do it with my hand and I don’t know why! It seems like things are a bit backwards. You might ask why I’d want to as it’s obviously a great bonus that she can cum and squirt from sex alone, but I’m just curious and would like to be able to make her cum using your methods. After a long while I usually give up with my hand and start having sex instead and then she will cum. What am I doing wrong?
hey jason i am going to buy your vidio. soon i talk yo my girlfreind and she aggree if i bought the vidio that we will try it , i cant wait to make her squirt, thanks .