The Coital Alignment Technique or CAT is a great sex position for
women that have a hard time having an orgasm during sex.
Where as most positions don’t directly stimulate the clitoris
the Coital Alignment Technique is a variation of the missionary
position that’s designed to maximize clitoral stimulation
How it works is the man positions himself in the same way he
would for normal missionary position and then enters the woman.
The woman can also wrap her legs around his if she wishes.
He then moves his body up the woman until the base of his penis
is near or on her clitoris.
Then instead of thrusting you take turns rocking back and fourth
keeping constant pressure on the clitoris with the base of your penis.
The constant pressure on the clitoris and subtle movements is what
this position is all about.
The CAT can take a little practice to get good at since there is no
thrusting involved, but once mastered it’s a great position to add
to your arsenal.
Hi,Jason…just want to say that my partner and I tried the CAT position…and enjoyed it very much…can sometimes be tricky to get in position from missionary…but it did stimulate her clitoris area very well!!
My girlfriend and I had tried the CAT technique..and it seemed to work very well!
I just have to remember not to thrust!!
It gave her some good clitoral stimulation!
Jason…when making love to ur partner.. and getting into the missionary position…After trying to enter her.. How do I keep from falling out of her vagina?..I tend to slip out
Also have trouble entering my girlfriend
What do you do for ED? Thanks much!
thakur mangesh says
Is there any distributor in India for ur products.I want to buy ur products.
Jason Julius says
My products are all accessed online so you can simply purchase through my website and get lifetime access to stream or download. Here is a link to my Blueprint program.
Google it for picture of concept. Here is one example and Wikipedia also has picture. Probably there are more graphic demonstrations out there!
Female orgasm is regarded taboo in most African cultures. Well done guys, you have dispelled me of this myth. Good Luck.
I really wait for you posts every hour just because I have leant alot in them. My spouse calls me a star in bed now.
What do you do when your Man gets frustrated after just 10 minutes of trying to give you your first G Spot orgasm? It messes with me mentally like its not going to happen now or that Im just wasting his time.Ugg!!!
Be Patient Im 65 it took me to get into the education of Sex
Which is not openly talked about in Specifics in my Culture as it is here.
Teo Coach says
Im curious.. How old are you both? Im 44 and workout twice a week… I can get to 3 in one day but need at least 2 days without sex and eat very healthy … some super foods like caju nuts, peanuts, bee polen and some others make a great difference. Search for “super foods” on google. Have “some good ones”.
Jason million thanks for your dedication and professionalism
Thank you Jason, I do agree with D. You have taught me and my husband a lot about female orgasm, and the technique to achieve them to the fullest. Please post some information on male orgasm because we women want to know how to please our men also.
Can you post the picture that show this position. Its dufficult to imaging.
Cat position pls send.
Just a note I used this technique a few times while practicing anal sex with my partner and she really loved the way it felt for her.
im so thankful to jason sex education your the best great maestro.
Thank you so much for your time and information you put into this you have taught me so much about myself, we are trying to save up money to purchase your program to help us relate better in the bedroom and the information you have already put out has helped us quite a bit thank you we can’t wait to purchase your program
hans tt says
Thank you dear mentor!keep it up
I just cannot envision this? Are you keeping the penis inside? I don’t get it. 🙁
Katiso Mothae says
Would you please send me a picture of coital alignment technique.
Learning a lot from you ,
CHEERS my friend.
I WANT TO KNOW ABOUT A MANS ORGASM.
ANY INFO ON THAT?
This is the absolute BEST website / information me and my husband have EVER found!!! Since discovering your information I have learned how to squirt and achieve multiple orgasms – recently I experienced my first full body orgasm which blew my mind. Also, from pleasuring me my husband can now achieve 2 orgasms instead of 1!!! You are amazing and we thank you!
I do agree with Calliandra above………I really would like to learn more about male orgasms and the what where whens that can have a man have orgasms just as great!
Hence my question: do you have a similar program about that?
Please let us know as although he can have 2 – I am greedy and WANT him to have more!!!
Jason, I have been following you advise for quite a while now and I have to tell you Thank You!! I have had to buy more sheets and also plastic matress cover as My girlfriends always soak my Bed as a result of your techneques Teaching, THANKS AGAIN!!
PLEASE DON’T STOP TEACHING US YOUR METHODS. THEY REALLY WORK!!
I am Pankaj. I read your almost every post Mr. Julius. All are very useful to me to get my wife or ex to reach on top on orgasm.
By using your techniques my sexual life is has been very incredible. I have a request to you.
Can you please post your Sexual Positions with images on my e-mail?
It will be very easy to me to understand by seeing images.
This is great, and it works too! Thank all!
I appreciate Jason’s posts. The “CAT” is effective! And sometimes adding a little vibrating cock ring to the position is hot too.
Tom Roberts says
I’ve used your techniques and they are good, but I like to make a V while thrusting in going to alternate sides with each withdrawal. This movement gives her a feeling of a lot of movement inside her. This hits her A spot at the base of her uterus beyond the G-spot which results in an inside orgasm. otherwise I like the doggy position and my fingers on her clit at the same time that I penetrate her.
I appreciate your suggestions and techniques though. I’m always willing to learn more. A happy wife is a happy home.
I just want to say a big thank you. U have made us great. I always foward it to my hubby.
I am a woman and actually learning a lot about myself (!!) in following your newsletter and blogposts — while I do know what gets me off in practice I have never been able to articulate this clearly as I did not know the “anatomical facts” behind it – so thank you very much for that and also expanding my horizon 😉
I really would like to learn more about male orgasms and the what where whens that can have a man have orgasms just as great!
Hence my question: do you have a similar program about that?
That would be waaay cool!
Bonnie Hurd says
Without a partner it doesn’t help. Sounds good though. As does every thing you write. Getting a man to read it and do it is the problem.
bill w says
Do u happen to live in Dallas Bonnie? I need a partner too.
Danny Boucher says
Very true … i’M in the same basket , know what you mean ! :/
Isaac Daniel says
Are you serious, unbelievable
I can relate to the no partner problem also. It sucks.
fantastic master art.
I’d really like to ask your advice on a matter but it may be more private then just a comment question, is there a way to message you directly? I would be very grateful if you have some time. Thank you.
Ps your videos are changing my life :>
Studying, practicing and mastering the techiques of pleasuring your lover is an art given distressingly little attention and importance in the US. What a shame! Our sexuality is a fundamental part of who we are until the day we stop breathing. Antiquated and mistaken ideologies vilifying this fundamental side of human existance does all of us a disservice. My husband and I are enjoying learning from your exciting and educational writings. Thank you for taking this role of teacher to the masses so seriously and professionally. Bravo!
You are so very right! It is a crying shame that so many people are so ignorant of their own sexuality. But then, who teaches you when you are growing up HOW TO PLEASE YOUR PARTNER? There are NO how-to classes in school, so your only learning is from porno, the streets, or trial and error. Everything else is hush hush or too tabo to even talk about. Everybody is screwing and no one is talking about it, well not until now anyways. How ridiculous. I sent this information to my son and apologized for not showing him “The Way” earlier. I wish I had this information many years ago. It probably would have saved my marriage to his mother. Thanks a million Jason. I owe you, BIG TIME!
I love this! But wont my boyfriend suffer? Because there is no thrusting.
Daniella,, If your boyfriend is like the men learning here, we are trying to stimulate and increase your orgasms. We will eventually get ours. I myself receive an enormous amount of pleasure when you are able to climax multiple times from what I’m doing.
Gary, I like that you said that to Daniella. Your girl is one lucky lady that you take interest in HER pleasure the way you do. I wish I could get my hubby to try this stuff out with me. He won’t even look at any of this material. There’s nothing wrong with our sex life he says. A word of warning: it becomes lazy sex after 5, 10 or 20 years of marriage, if you let it. The damage is almost always irreparable after that.
Tnx alot,b4 now i dnt enjoy sex with my husband,but through ths knowledge he gets different ways that make me to achieve orgasm in ten minutes,he touches my clit with the head of his penis when he was fucking me at the back.
Thanks Julius, you are the best I ever herd, This stuff really works. Thanks again.
great work my bro. keep it on.
Hi Jason?Thanks big for your educative and encouraging topics on sex.Both parties need to enjoy sex,a man and a woman.I would request you send me some videos relating to CAT positioning.Looking forward to seeing them soon.Be blessed and continue teaching us more.Talk later.Bye.
my my my this is heaven on earth mr. jason. l salute you from back to forth till my hands are broken. you ar the man!!!!!! you know wat? you hav really saved a lot of marriages on this planet earth. keep this great job and be blessed again and again. can l call you my heroooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!?????
I have found with my wife that this works great. It’s even more intense if she puts her legs between mine as it presses all her woman parts together for more all-over stimulation. She’s in her 60s and there are times her tissues are to sensitive for much thrusting, but this still gives her incredible orgasms where she can’t breath or move and her juices just flow out of her.
Oh, it works really well with the woman on top too when she wants to have full control.
the cat is favorite of many women.. to many men dont know this , they think thrusting fast and hard is what a woman wants all the time.. c’mon we like it slow and steady too
You make haven sex fun more and more just keep it coming
i have to say bro,i have had great success with a couple of you tecniqse.a couple girls keep coming back just to get”squirted”.They had never had internal full body orgasms before,and they are hooked!i had never heard of them either until checking out your site.but am completely impressed by what i have learned from you.and so are they!i dont even think of myself anymore,just what i can do for them.its more fun watching them go through it than it is getting off myself.you rock bro and keep the good stuff cumming!
Jason. I tried some of your technics,Really Awesome response from my wife. she told me ,this is the first time she got very good sex from our 22 years married life.With the finger technics, she got a nice orgasm 3 times. Thanks jason for your great work.
That was a very fine technique. Before I do this one, i simply cut short my pubic hair on top of my penis and maintain just about 1’2 inch in length of hair, just to create more sensation on her clit. After her bursting orgasm you will feel n see that your balls were all dripping wet with her lovejuice. This is a pleasurable experience, weather ur on top or under.
Do you have any distributor here in the Philippines wherein i can directly buy ur products. Thanks.
Josef~thanks for bringing up pubic hair! I am 50, female, blessed with a long line of lovers, and have found that a man’s pubic hair can quicly rub a clitoris raw under pressure. Stubble also. I agree with the 1/2 inch length~great tip!
Wow oh my goodness cant wait 2 try dis great job jason u always get us women 4 better pleasure 😉
Thanks again Jason for a job well done send me more after 30 yrs with the wife it just keeps getting better end better.
hi jason i have been following your programs and are very educative and helpful,kudos jason.
i like you alot i want more of it
black stallion says
Awesome! My wife usually have 6, 10 12 or more earth shimmering eruptions b4 I would cum. And guess what, I suck um all up. Yea man it is delicious stuff. so get your guys to come down and dry it up so she keeps cumming and you keep gettin more. in this way you don;t have to worry about the bed gettin wet. It’s good therapy and prevents any kind of colds and sore throat. Medicine for the body and soul!!!!
Direct hit on the body and soul therapy, Stallion!!! There is so much exchange between partners during sex-healthy sex, healthy exchange 🙂
Armando Quintero says
I use the following sexual position: The woman lies on her back and I get up and penetrate her and then she lowers her legs and closed and that causes the penis to rub the clitoris with more intensity
Thanks for all the tips n tactics. As most men did, I was out for self when having sex. I’m changed in my ways now. Her first 3 times before me. 3 to 1 is my new motto.
Let us know when you make it up to 12 to 1 and your woman stands up from the bed and her knees are shaking so much she can hardly stand there.
Wow!!! Jason,am so happy being a part of your class… cos my eyes are beginning to open to the world sex REALITIES….. Thanks Jason
Yes, indeed. We need to see videos. If possible, live.
this is an awesome tech to me,thanks again!jj
Erickson Awich says
hey Julius. i must really appreciate your teachings and tactics. they are true and wonderful. my longtime and finally now wife really appreciates and mostly has vowed never to separate ways with me. we really enjoy using some of the techniques. i used to practice some of them even before viewing your experience. its really a good scene to see, realize and experience a woman orgasm stage. some tremble to death and after the “game” THEY REALLY SLEEP DEEPLY there after. thumbs up for you Julius. i am from Kenya (an African country)
that was a great stuff!
This is one of the best sites I’ve ever come across. Do you try these things out before you post them, because everything I’ve read and tried ALLWAYS worked. I’ve done pretty good for myself but after learning about your site its been all better. One of my ladies even knelt on the bed after we finished and clapped million thanks to you Sir.
Keep up the good work Jason, sexual intimancy is important in a relationship for a women, but for men who can’t satiisfy thier partner the man-hood is lowred. Education is King and guys who take time and research is well spent. So keep doing you masterful work!
Just wanted to let you know that i have used several of your technique and i have made my fiancee repeatedly squirt and ever soak me with very little effort. Her first big o was with me which made me proud that i could do that for her. Thanks man you are awesome keep the ifno coming as i am willing to learn to be a better lover.
Man, you must be a Sagitarius man. Not only does your info help physically, it heightens spiritual connections. I’ve found that the closer I get or farther I get into being one with my partner the greater and more in depth is the orgasm. They are all like beautiful huge explosions for her. Thanks.
JASON KEEP UP THE MEANINGFUL AND GOOD WORK TO TEACH AND EDUCATE THE MISINFORNED AND THE ILL INFORMED ABOUT THE ART OF TRUR LOVIE MAKING
thats a great trick,i wanna try that one.seems easy.but what do i do because i come after about 5-10 minutes.
Great ! Very helpful it’ll be am sure.
Jason, Great advise as this position not only helps delay a guys orgams but is very intimate for boths partners. It is great for passionate kissing and full body conact while doing it this way and the ladies love that and orgasm harder, while it helps the guy control when to cum.
Great position :0
All I can say is, Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!
hi jason, do you hAVE any video about that kind of position, hope you can sendme..
thank you so much jason
Need to know about methods of delay ejaculation- once this is in order all other mechanisms fall in line- guide me
I have been reading much of your stuff and you have very good information…this one surprises me a little as you say the base of your penis line up with the clitoris….not sure if I get it as when I am in missionary position and lean forward it is the top of my penis that hits this part…..am I interpreting this wrong or??? thanks for all your help…keep up good work…one of the best sites and infor available…thanks tom
Tom, you may be interpreting it wrong just a bit. Maybe this will help. Once you have penetrated, forget that you have a penis and imagine that you are another woman (with a huge clit) focusing on maintaining pelvic contact. This technique requires that you quiet your typical excitement level and FOCUS on MAINTAINING that pelvic contact with your partner grinding hard and slow. If you do this, you will notice that your penetration is deeper and affects her more intensely. It is a great technique…one that I have been using for a few years now. Hope this helps
Well, Sam. Seems that you missed the boat as well. The problem that Tom is having is simply a matter of words. He is not understanding what the “base” of his penis is. He says that when he is inside his woman that it is the “top” of his penis in contact with the clit.
Tom, we’re not talking about top and bottom of penises here. The base of your penis is where your penis is meeting with your pubic bone and the fact that you say your penis “top” is the part on her clit then you have it right all along. Where your penis connects to your body and on the top side is what is in contact with the clit. Who needs drawings here?
Stephanie Blades says
Thanks for the clarification Sam!
Tom, the base of your penis is the area closest to YOUR body, or where YOUR penis is connected to YOUR body. The end, tip or *head of your penis is where your urethral & ejaculatory opening is. ….. *FYI: Blow jobs arent called “head or “giving head” for nothing.
Jason, thanks for the free help. As a married pastor of 14 years I’ve only recently seen my wife have a body curling orgasm thanks to your tech. I like the fact you’re not using pornographic stuff to sell books but are really trying to help married me.
Is there a video that demonstrates exactly how its done? I need a visual.
yes I am a visual person as well. A video demonstrating this position would be very helpful:) Thanks Jason for all your tips!!
OMG gentlemen please. Listen, Jason is a nice guy and he’s not going to ridicule his followers, me being one of them. However, I will. Look, get on top of your lady face to face and go inside of her, ok? No pictures needed here? Now give her a little kiss on her lips. Nice huh? Now, go up a little further and give her a kiss on her forehead. Still nice? Do you see what you just did to go from her lips to her forhead? Good. Now just make believe for a moment in your minds eye that she has yet another set of lips above her forehead. Got it? Now slide up a little more and kiss those imaginary lips. If I’m losing you now then you need to take up checkers. Now you see what it means when he is saying to lean forward. He means to slide UP the front of her body. And Jason, forgive me for even making a slight addition to this technique but it will help these two guys at least. OK, guys now continue to slide up the front of her body until you are at the point to where you can rest the underside of your elbows on the top of her shoulders. That right there will give you so much more leverage for pulling yourself into her to grind and if she decides to wrap her feet around the back of your knees you’re going to feel her pulling herself into you just as hard.
Now go for it and we’ll wait for your next report. I’m sure it won’t be to ask for a drawing.
EXACTLY!!! Cant be any clearer than that! Men: its the griding … NOT the thrusting that is KEY to this technique. This is also a great technique fof women who find even slow to moderate thrusting uncomfortable or downright painful. Not all women can “get off” with the typical thrusting move. Its also impossible for a woman to relax & enjoy sex if it causes her pain.
I am Yoyo.I am international student. I would like to buy your videos about orgasm arts. Do your videos contain subtitle in English Language?
Jason, your tips n tricks are amazing!, but…i have kinda opposite problem like other men..do you have some trick or advice to speed it up with my orgasm? cuz its fine to know how to treat woman but she requires the both side satisfaction..hope u help
Good job Jason.. learned a lot.. thanks
Thanks for the info but I need more info about g spot and squirting orgasms.
I got married almost 2 years ago (age 21) and my husband was 28. He releases extremely fast (about a few seconds and 1 minute at most). We went to the doctor and he said everything is medically fine. Till today I still don’t even know what an orgasm is. There is just no way for me to orgasm if he lasts so short. Can you please tell me what to do so he should last long? (we already tried so many things). PLEASE HELP!!!
How do I get her to squirt all over me…:)
Thanks for sharing ,,, i will try it very soon!!
my bf dont want to look at your blog, cause he thinks its not nessesery..
he is good.. but he cal learn so much from you.. how can I make him lokk at you blog?
(sorry for my bad englisch, im from holland 😛 ^^)
if don’t know what is orgasm…………..??????????????????
I’m 31, have 3 kids, got married in 2005 at the age of 25, I had intercourse for the first time on the day of my wedding, I never had boyfrend before because of my religion.
Every time that I have sex with my husband I make him feel like if he is the king of the word and he thinks that he is making me feel the same but it is not true because i feel nothing at all apart from pain of course.
So ,what is your advise for me please.
Lindi, Im an RN, BS. Wow! There’s a LOT of underlying issues in your one comment. 1) From a purely objective viewpoint, many women who are forced to be celibate AND chaste or “c & c” (big difference between the two) until their wedding night have the same issues you do. As for men who grow up forced to be “c & c,” they can be bumbling, selfish, extremely rough & inconsiderate when it comes to sex. You both need help. The fact that you are exploring the net & came to Jason’s site, in spite of religious taboos, is remarkable b/c you realize something is TERRIBLY wrong .. & its not just with you. 2) Lying to your husband/partner – ESPECIALLY IN BED – is a marriage destroyer. Telling your husband he’s great at sex when he causes you pain instead of pleasure after 7, long miserable years is bullshit! 2A) His brutal technique could be borderline abuse on his part, or just plain stupidity & ignorance about both men & women’s bodies & how REAL sex should be. Its not called “making love” for nothing. Your husband must be both clueless & selfish if he cant SEE THE PAIN ON YOUR FACE nor feel nor be aware of the tenseness & unresponsiveness of your body! 2B) You, Lindi, must be a VERY good actress -picture Meg Ryan in the ‘faking orgasm scene’ in “When Harry Met Sally.” 3) Youve had 3 kids, so your vagina is more than “opened up”/stretched out.” I can only surmise that you may have Vaginismus, Vulvodynia or VulvoVestibulitis Syndrome. You need to be OPEN & GRAPHIC with your ObGyn & tell him/her what’s going in. Its not “normal.” 4) You didnt state how often you have sex. 5)Do you & your husband use gallons of LUBE? If not, start NOW. Dont wait for him to buy it. He wont. Lindi, start TAKING YOUR POWER BACK & go to the store & BUY SOME &;THEN INSIST ON USING IT EACH & EVERY TIME. Its YOUR body. 6) Lindi, its time to get real, time to take the gloves off. You need to sit your hubby down & be brutally honest. First & formost APOLOGIZE for lying for 7 years & tell him why. Tactfully tell him you hate having sex with him & why. Tactfully tell him he is just awful at it & why. Any other advice I can offer is “above my pay grade.” For the salvation of your marriage, you are BOTH going to need education & RE-education regarding human biology & sexuality. You’re BOTH going to need the help of a licensed professional. Perhaps your ObGyn can recommend a few. And, yes, there are therapists & “sex therapists” that cater to those who belong conservative religions. Again, the key to improving things is that BOTH of you need to participate. Not much progress will be made if only one of you realizes & seeks help for this very deep-rooted problem. Lindi, men & women’s bodies were designed by God to pleasure each other to a state of unbridaled exctasy. So, its time to stop lying & faking – (lying is a sin, remember?), as a woman & wife & sexual being, its time to take your power back, its time you finally experience the awesome intimate life, one designed by God, that you deserve.
Jason, you know how to treat women. You are right in every word you say. Do you want to be my boyfriend? XD.
What can I do to “last longer” with my wife? I suffer from PE
I Like Your Shorter Hair Version, I’am 63yrs old, and I like The more Mature Look. and also my new wife feels more confident, in your words of wisdom from the older look. No doubt From My past Readings of many articles. Your the Best with your down to Earth explanations. THANKS….Frank.
Well Frank I am almost 61 and I shave mine, cooler in summer and easier to keep clean.
Julius, you are so correct in what you say about making your woman feel loved, special, beautiful happy and content. I can relate to where you are coming from. I felt all those things but sadly he passed away last year having reconnected with me after him 33 yrs It is just being together and finding your soulmate to make this so complete which can make life together so beautiful.
Jason, What do you have on positions and spots to hit during anal sex that make her squirt and flood the bed?
What can I do to “last longer” with my wife? I won’t say that I suffer from PE,but I know that there are times when we are really passionate when I know more extreme pleasure is around the corner for her if I could last a bit longer.
i dont understand how to do it, i need a visual image or something to get it
The very first time my wife and I ever had sex we kinda accidentally did the CAT technique. She must have came 7 or 8 times in about half an hour!!! Also if she’s cool with it you can slip a finger in her back door for an even more intense experience for her. For anyone who hasn’t tried the CAT technique…. DO IT!!! She’ll love it. Mr. Julius won’t steer ya wrong.
You mentioned the 2 types of female orgasms ,clitoris and G spot but you didnt mentioned doing both at the same time, so i like to know while massaging her g spot with 2 fingers or 1 and at the same time licking the clitoris will she have a bigger explosion or not ?
Thanks for this position, i can tell my girls going to love it
oh yeah, thanks for i think it was the g-spot video, i’v made her cum twice
One question, first time it didnt take to long, second time it took quite awhile, but its starting to take so long that my arm literally doesnt have the strength to continue, any tips?
Jason is the one who should really answer this one. But I’ll add my 2 cents. Go back & CAREFULLY review all of his G-spot videos! I dont think you’re doing it right. You may be “off target” & no where near the G area or you’ve actually gone past it. (Again, see Jason’s videos & articles.) You’re supposed to use your INDEX finger on the G-spot using GENTLE, short, repetative strokes, not move your entire arm back & forth. Remember, that area is at the “beginning” of the vagina & feels similar to the texture of a walnut or the ridged area of the roof of your mouth. Before a woman is aroused, the G-spot area is almost smooth. With continued manual stimulation – using your finger- the more engorged & swollen the area, or “spot,” will become. This indicates she is becoming increasingly aroused. If you are actually stimulating her G-spot, she should have one or more orgasms in very little time. If you are indeed stimulating her G spot & your hand gets tired, try the OTHER hand or use a gentle vibrator on the area. You will need to literally measure how deep to go, putting a small mark in the vibrator showing how far to knsert it. Again, watch Jasons videos, as this next tip is key! In almost every video, he repeatedly reminds us that women need to be thoroughly relaxed & need to get out of their heads & in the moment to really “let go.” This is done by using both words AND actions. If there is only silence in the room, that’s a recipe for disaster. If she cant seem to cum via CORRECT G spog stimulation, not only will she become frustrated, her mind will start to wander if there is silence bc you’re not talking to her. She’ll retreat back into her head & start going through the grocery list, along with any other “to do” lists that are ALWAYS on a woman’s mind! Are you talking to your partner, using “dirty” talk, complimenting her, telling her she’s the queen of your universe? This should help while you stimulate her to G spot orgasm. And … DONT talk about how/why she’s not coming! Continue to AROUSE her with your words. So, review Jason’s videos, make sure you are actually hitting her G spot & bring her out of her head & into the moment by using “special” or intimate talk with her.
I just wanna say thanks to you man! My sex life has never been the same.
I’m a 27 year old woman and i’ve tried this position it does wonders! Especially on a second round when you more wet. All i can say is it feels good i even told my fiance that he just does it for me. My quation is how do i slowly introduce him to oral sex because he is having problems in that department.
This has me stumped. I was with a rather hot young thing and, she was on top and just starting a good rythum. I reached out on my night table for some lube and I found a pin. Out of curiosity, I pricked her ass when I was inside of her and she screamed and exploded all over the place. Big smile on her face and mine.
I have found that this position or something very similar was the first and “most likely to succeed” way for me to have an orgasm. The difference is: I tilted my pelvis up so that my clit was against his mounds? not the base of his shaft. and all he had to do was stay straight above me and stay hard. I would pivot and grind while just moving him slightly toward my head and back down. The problem is….My current lover needs the in and out thrusts to keep hard and there is no friction for this, so when I get close to orgasm, he isnt as hard as necessary anymore….I think this is an A spot and clitoral orgasm together for me and is really awesome when it works. Still havent cum from the G-spot stimulated by hand. workign on it.
Patrick F says
You can try anything and everything, it only works if you are in the non-stressed situation as well as create both a mental as well as a physical atmosphere for both involved.
You will see how well it works. See and understand what her likes are. Start slow with several sensual moves. Have her turned on, have conversations and operate and enjoy what she does. This all makes it very enjoyable for both. As a male, don’t be selfish, her needs should come first only, then you will keepp her satisfied and then you will be first for her.
Patrick F says
Hey…Now you are talking. Iti si one of the ways to have her have an orgasm. There are quite a few as you know. It depends upon ones stamina. I have no problems as I am an oral artist and am possess a terrific stamina. The state of mind and the mind as well creating the atmosphere are a very important part of the play.
What is the best lubricant to use that will last a long time. Also one that will help to reach the G-spot better too.
Jason Julius says
@Bishop – I like to use All Natural Grape Seed Oil, but don’t use it if you’re going to be using condoms. In the case of condom sex you need to use a water based lube.
What’s the best way to lick the cat to really make her cum like crazy.
That’s one of the techniques I use with my wife (CAT) and it works very well. We found variations for it. Sometimes the woman doesn’t want to do the work of rocking. That’s fine. You can grab her butt and pull her in towards your body, which keeps the pressure between her clit and the base of your penis. And then you do the rocking while keeping her tight in.
Smart Malek says
Thanks men. I have tried that with my wife its good. It makes her screem all the time, I’m there. Bravo
stephen V.H. says
I like what I’m reading, but I’m on a tight, fixed income! Can I make payment to get a book, or volunteer to help in your next book! (Man over 50, and loves live!)
i really enjoy reading all that you say… now i have to leaRN WHAT TOO DO
I WILL TRY THEM SOON AND I WILL LET YOU KNOW HOW IT TURNS OUT
FYI, for those having trouble keeping it up, check Tim Ferris’s 4 hour body regarding testosterone therapy with fermented fish oil, butter oil, and D3. And the Kegel exercises.
Haven’t seen my girlfried for a while (work) but the last 2 nights I’ve blown her mind with my stamina. And this website hasn’t hurt. I’m 45, and I feel like a 22 year old in the sack
yes this is one we use when she wants to orgasm.It works everytime.
Craver- I had the same problem. I’m 48 and had a hysterectomy at 38. Have been given horomones in the past, but nothing helped until I had my hormone levels checked through blood work and bio-identical hormone pellets of estrogen and testosterone which I was very low on inserted in my hip. Sex is awesome again and I recommend any woman having menopausal issues to get your hormones tested. This can be one of the best times of your life sexually if you take control of your health.
My gal likes it missionary, thrusting, hard and fast. I’ve tried it doggie, cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, you name it. Once she comes she thunders with muscle twitching. I also like to make her come orally, sucking on her clit, while I stimulate the g-spot with my finger. Man does this ever get her wet. She then pulls me up on top to penetrate her to the big O. Our tops is 10 orgasms in one extended session. I’ve always been good for 40 minutes at a time. Tried for 60, but the back gives out.
All you guys should try sucking on her clit. Tell him if you like it soft or hard. Pull it between your teeth and flick it with your tongue. That should make her come, every time.
I REQUEST FOR YOUR ADVICE ON MY ISSUE, WHENEVER AM DOING IT WITH MY WIFE,THE PLEASURE MAKES ME COME VERY QUICKLY AND I DON’T GAIN MY ERECTION IMMEDIATELY,AND SHE CONTINUES ASKING ME T SHRUST WHEN AM COMPLETELY OFF.
PS. The couple I mentioned earlier…couldn’t wait to leave my office and check out Jason’s site. Then next morning I got two phone calls …one from each of them… thanking me!
I’ve been asking myself this same question for a long time. i finally figured it out while was working with a couple that wanted to experience “more”…. The female didn’t want to hurt her man’s feelings so I simple presented it to him as a fantasy of hers. I gave them Jason’s web site, along with a few other interesting sites to check out and told them that they needed to go through the material together and pick out things they wanted to experience together.
I told HIM to focus on Jason’s concepts that sex begins in a woman’s mind and he needed to get her out of daily life and into her head aka fantasies. If he started to research what woman’s fantasies are he would find her much more responsive.
From experience I know MEN appreciate it if a women teaches them what they like…it isn’t like there is a place they would normally get to learn this from….it may seem bold or brassy but in the long run you will both be more satisfied. Don’t be afraid. Just be sexy about it.
As a suggestion perhaps getting an outsider to make mention of Jason’s site with positive comments and encouraging both you and your man to check out Jason’s site….if you can’t get someone to make mention of it then try “hey, look what I found”…if you do it together as a learning experience or fantasy fulfillment then perhaps it won’t offend him and make it that much easier for you to talk about. You can also show him something you learned… try a new technique on him and prove that a little learning never hurt anyone!
I’ve asked several men if they would be offended if their wife were to make suggestions and from what I find men don’t get offend as much we (women) think they will. It is more offensive to let it continue on and fake it then to just be upfront in the begining…. DON’T let this behavior continue…that isn’t fair to him.
From what I have researched men think suggestions are sexy, your imput in what goes down in the bed room is exptreemly important to a good relationship. Open communication is much sexier than hiding behind a headache. I do understand that women have a harder time talking about sex with their partner and dirty talk doesn’t come easy for most of us women…but as you will find it turns on most men like a light switch…instant hard on.
Jason, I love what you teach, but I need to know how to present it to my man, so he won’t be hurt. I’ve never had an orgasm, altho I lick and stroke him to orgasm regularly, and I love to be on top ‘in control’ but my orgasm just never happens & then he comes or has me stop, so he won’t, and then I lose my ‘momentum’. He says loves my pussy and when he does go down on me, I guess he just doesn’t do it right, because I never come…I’m beginning to get jealous of his ability to come so easily! At first, he tried really hard and would lick & lick, but now he kind of gives up after a halfhearted attempt, because he knows I’m not going to come anyway.
I love him, but should I move on & try to find someone more committed to help me find what works, or is more experienced? He said I’m his 3rd lover (he’s 47), I would not tell him, but many men have failed to help me orgasm. Masterbating doesn’t excite me enough, like having a lover, but I try…
Do I stay, or do I go? If I stay, how do I get him ‘educated’?
Unsatisfied ( and VERY frustrated)
PS your videos are very hot…wish I was your ‘test torso’ lol!!
I’m newly in LOVE after a 26 yr. failed marriage… I’m pleased wi
th my newmate. I’ve never been loved & respected the way he treats me. I’m satis!fied for the most part sexually , I’m learning alot of new stuff. Yet I’ve been so dry lately. It’s difficult for him to enter, is something medically wrong with me? I wasn’t like this at first. I’m only 50 years old. Please help! !!
Jason Julius says
@craver Having you tried using any kind of lubrication like Astroglide?
Hi Craver, Im an RN, BS, & most peri-menopausal women (35-40+ to menopause onset) begin to experience vaginal dryness due to depletions/changes in estrogen & progesterone levels. Please go to your gyn for a thorough exam & “heart-2-heart.” And make sure to have ALL of your hormone levels checked, including thyroid! You dr may Rx you hormone replacement, or … simply tell you to use lube, &;lots of it. I recommend gallons of it! lol In all seriousness, friction on a dry vulva or inside a dry vagina can be very painful & lead to tearing & even infections within the tears. So, plz use lots of lube. See Jason’s recommendation.
I just had to tell you. I was going to trash my sex toys until yesterday. I put the two batteries in and put the massager on my clit. You cannot believe the pleasure and dynamite orgasm! My only wish is that i had my honey to enjoy this bliss with. I fell in love at age 72 and he really turns me on. Who would believe sex was so great? How did i live my whole life without my soul mate?
Thank. I’ll give this a try tonight. She gets off easilly but never durring intercorse. This sounds like the ticket. Thanks again.
Lil Thunder- I believe, your question has been puzzling women for a long time. For me, I had the idea of improving my skills with women. I discovered that women can have many other types of orgasms. Of course, this info is NOT taught in school, men DON’T talk about it to each other and MOST women DON’T know about the many possibilities. My belief is, he has to want to learn. If he doesn’t, I would recommend that you drop him or find someone who knows or wants to know.
LIL THUNDER says
HELLO JASON SO GLAD I CAME ACROSS YOUR SITE , IVE BEEN USING A FEW OF YOUR TECHNIQUES ON MYSELF, …NOW I GOTTA GET MY BF EDUCATED AND TRY A FEW , I PLEASURE HIM , HOW DO I GET HIM TO RECIPROCATE…? PLEASE REPLY…
i have been married for many years and i am bored of sex with my hubby,he is not interested in my needs. i have a lover and he does his very best to make me orgasm, trouble is i cant relax enough please help
it realy fantastic. thank you alot
Oh Man ! Does that work great ! Thank you. and bececoffee is right you are one sexy man.
Now I have to find someone to do that with.
Ive tried dis position lotta times…but i think there are other positions dat works faster smoother and harder that dis….well…seeing woman having orgasm is the greatest pleasure in da world…cheers
patrick allen says
jason at 52 have hard time keeping it hard can you give some advise please .. some of thing read this summer have her having 2orgasms a nite and thats just a good licking thank you my friend pat
Oh, I think we allready have this one on our repertoir haha. It´s really great, but we have to work fast cause his erection will not sustain as long as when there is more in´n´out action. We got a couple of those penisrings but haven´t tried it yet.
you know you are one sexy MF!!!