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Why Sex Positions Are Not The Answer to Great Sex

By Jason Julius

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Jason Julius here. And I get asked about sex positions a lot. Sex positions are not the key to giving her orgasms. Yet, the reason that positions typically come to mind is because in mainstream culture, where sex is taboo and not talked about as openly as it should be, the few resources that can be found or books that tout something like 101 sex positions for better sex. However, tangling up your bodies and having completely random friction is not the key to giving her orgasms. Remember, in its simplest form, the keys to giving her an orgasm are shifting her mental state to a state of calm and presence called orgasmic state plus stimulating her sensitive spots such as her clitoris, her G-spot, or her A-spot.

The orgasmic state in this equation is far more important. But let’s say you’ve already got her to an orgasmic mental state, you might be thinking, “What’s the best position for stimulating those spots?” My answer to that is all of them because, in reality, there are only three sex positions, total. Now, the first one is missionary, that’d be man on top of woman, front to front. The second position is doggie style which is man behind woman, front to back. And the third position is woman on top which is woman on top of a man, front to front. Every other position is just a combination of these three.

Now, think reverse cowgirl. And we can see that this is simply a mix of doggy style and woman on top. Think about entering her from behind while you are both lying on your sides. Yeah, that’s still doggy style. No matter how ridiculously you tangle up your bodies, you’re essentially in a combo of the three basic positions. This understanding makes it a lot simpler to see that positions are not the answer to giving her more pleasure or orgasms during sex. The key distinction should be where you aim the head of your penis in any of these positions.

In reality, all of the positions are perfect for giving her orgasms. Yet, just slightly changing the angle of how you enter her makes a huge difference in hitting the right spots. For example, missionary is a great position for being close with your partner and looking into her eyes. Yet, if you just put a pillow or a wedge under her butt, this will tilt her pelvis so that when you enter her your penis will be perfectly angled to hit the front wall of her vagina making it much more likely for her to orgasm. Another example is doggy style position. If you aim the head of your penis down instead of straight forward, you are much more likely to stimulate her G-spot or A-spot from this angle.

Also, some ways of positioning yourself are better than others for stimulating her clitoris during intercourse. But go easy on the sensitive area, guys. It’s great for giving her one orgasm, but it’s too sensitive to go beyond that. I usually go for vaginal orgasms when I’m inside of her. Vaginal orgasms are a full body experience since how you give her a squirting orgasm during sex.

Now, another key distinction that’s much more important than sex positions is her mental state, as I mentioned before. Think about this guys, if you can give her an orgasm before sex begins, she’ll already be in an orgasmic state and be 10 times more likely to orgasm during sex in any position. Now, don’t get me wrong, changing up sex positions and where you have sex is great for breaking up a routine in your relationship, in keeping things exciting. However, simply focusing on position as a method to make her orgasm is missing the point completely.

Hey guys, real quick before you go. If you like to content in this video, go ahead and hit the like button below and make sure to leave a comment and let me know what you think, and ask any questions that you might have. And also, don’t forget to hit the subscribe button because I have some really cool content planned. I’m gonna be coming out with videos weekly and I don’t want you to miss a thing. So thanks for watching, and I’ll see you in the next one.

Men’s Exercise to Last Longer in Bed

By Jason Julius

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One skill any man should master is control over his ejaculation. This gives you the ability to continue having sex until your woman is able to orgasm at least once, and the beauty of completely mastering the skill is when you can last long enough to give her multiple orgasms during sex. Now, I came up with a triad of skills that can be easily mastered to gain full control of your ejaculation, but the most critical place to start is with the simple muscle exercise that strengthens the muscle that controls ejaculation. If this muscle is weak, I don’t care what other things you try, how much you think about ridiculous non-sexual things like your boss or a telephone booth to avoid going over the ejaculation edge. You literally won’t have control until you have control over this muscle.

Now, some guys are like, “What? I have to do work and exercise something?” Yes, my friend, you do. In fact, you’ve been doing the wrong kind of work by training yourself to ejaculate quickly when you masturbate and that’s why this muscle is so weak. Fear not, though, in a second you’ll see how easy this is and that it can literally be done anywhere and soon it will be a habit. Even better you’ll be able to have harder and firmer erections and more control over your erections with doing these exercises as well. Plus you can make your penis pulse like it does when you ejaculate while you’re deep inside of her which will drive her wild.

So let’s head over to the computer and I’ll show you exactly what to do. All right, so we’re going to quickly cover how to exercise the number one muscle critical to male sexual health. Now, this muscle’s called the pubococcygeus muscle or pelvic floor muscle, but we’ll call it the PC muscle for short. Now, the PC muscle looks like the shape of a hammock and it stretches from your tailbone to your pubic bone. One of the PC muscle’s functions is to control urine flow. However, it is also responsible for the pleasurable contractions that you feel during ejaculation as well as ejaculation and erection control. So, as you can see, it’s very important to strengthen this muscle. Now, in some of my other videos, you may have heard me talk about a woman’s PC muscle in regard to achieving squirting vaginal orgasms. This muscle contracts during a vaginal orgasm and helping your woman strengthen it can make a huge difference in her ability to achieve orgasm, as well as her overall sexual health.

Now, the same can be said about men as having a strong PC muscle is essential for superior sexual health. But unfortunately, most men have never strengthened this muscle and even worse many men weaken this muscle by conditioning their bodies to quickly ejaculate during masturbation. So we wanna do these exercises for multiple reasons to be able to last longer, have harder and firmer erections, and more pleasure out of our ejaculations. So how do we do these PC muscle exercises? Well, step one is finding your PC muscle. So the next time you go to the bathroom to urinate, try to stop the flow of urine while you’re using the toilet. The same muscle you contract to stop your urine while peeing is the muscle we’re going to strengthen. If you look in the mirror as you tighten and relax this muscle, the base of your penis will move closer to your abdomen and your testicles will rise.

Now, don’t worry if attempting this doesn’t move them very much as your PC muscle may not be strong enough to do this yet, which is why we need to focus on exercising it. The PC muscle also allows men to move the penis up and down while the penis is erect. However, just so we’re clear, you will not be doing these exercises with an erection which allows you to do them unnoticed virtually anywhere. So step two, is learning your technique. Once you’ve identified your pelvic floor muscles, your PC muscle as we did in step one, go ahead and empty your bladder and lie down. You can do these exercises while sitting, standing, or walking. However, lying down helps you to isolate the muscle when you’re first starting out. Now, what I want you to do is to contract your pelvic floor muscle and hold the contraction for three seconds, then relax for three seconds. Now, make sure you’re isolating just your PC muscle, be careful not to flex the muscles in your abdomen, your thighs or your butt. You should only be contracting your PC muscle. Also make sure you’re not holding your breath, be sure to breathe freely as you contract and hold that muscle. Now, try this a few times to get comfortable with it. Remember, you’re gonna hold for three seconds then relax for three seconds.

So now that you get the gist of the technique, we’re gonna talk about how to do these things and when. So you wanna repeat this exercise three times per day. When starting out we wanna aim for 3 sets of 10 repetitions a day, holding for 3 seconds then releasing for 3 seconds. So you might do it at breakfast, lunch, and dinner just to keep it simple, 3 times per day. Now, once this becomes easy, you should move up to holding the muscle for 5 seconds for each set of 10 reps, 3 times per day. And after that, you can move up to 7 seconds, and then 10 seconds. Once 3 sets of 10 reps holding for 10 seconds becomes easy, you can move to 3 sets of 20 holding for 10 seconds. However, this level may take some time to achieve. Opt to go slower than faster when you move up these levels of repetitions.

So the protocols to do the PC muscle exercises starting at level 1 which is 10 reps of holding for 3 seconds then releasing for 3 seconds, and repeating that 3 times per day. That’s where you need to start out. Now, level 2, when you’re ready for it is gonna be 10 reps, hold for 5 seconds, release for 3 seconds and repeat it 3 times per day. So it’s gonna be a little bit harder because you gonna be holding it a little bit longer. The next level is gonna be 10 reps holding for 7 seconds, releasing for 3 seconds, repeated 3 times per day. And as you can see, as we move up these levels, we’re gonna be just holding that muscle a little bit longer. So level 4 is 10 reps holding for 10 seconds, releasing for 3, repeated 3 times per day. And level 5 is 20 reps holding for 10 seconds, releasing for 3, repeated 3 times per day.

But start at level one and opt to go very slowly as you move up these as your muscle becomes stronger. Now, once you get the hang of it these exercises can be done conveniently in any position pretty much anywhere, guys. You can get in the habit of doing them during a mundane task like watching TV, sitting at a stoplight or brushing your teeth. If at any point you feel overly sore though, be sure to take a day off to allow your body to recover because you don’t wanna overwork or stress this muscle just like any other workout. Now, the biggest thing is to remember to actually do them, try putting a sticky note on your bathroom mirror that says, “Do it” to remind yourself because it’s easy to forget. It’s simple, but after one week, the routine becomes very easy and natural and you’ll soon find it to become a habit.

So there you have it, probably the singular most important muscle exercise any man can do to improve sexual health. Try it out and let me know what you think.

Hey, guys, real quick before you go, if you like the content in this video, go ahead and hit the like button below and make sure to leave a comment and let me know what you think and ask any questions that you might have. And also don’t forget to hit the subscribe button because I have some really cool content planned. I’m gonna be coming out with videos weekly, and I don’t want you to miss a thing. So thanks for watching, and I’ll see you in the next one.

Female Ejaculation | What to Expect

By Jason Julius

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All sexually healthy women are capable of full-body squirting orgasms, and they’re probably the best way to blow any woman’s mind in the bedroom. So, what should you expect when you first set out to give a woman a squirting orgasm? Hey, guys. Jason Julius here, and in this video let’s talk about what to expect when you first set out to give your woman a squirting orgasm. So, I’ll oftentimes get questions and comments from guys who have just learned maybe some new techniques, and they want to go apply this, or they have applied it, and sometimes their expectations as to what to expect with their loved one is a little bit off. So I want to talk to you about how you should approach this when you are first starting out giving any woman a full-body squirting orgasm.

Now, first of all, you know, you’re going to want to focus on, first and foremost, being very close with your partner, just having a great connection and not having super crazy expectations. And I promise you that will make it a lot easier for it to just happen. You certainly don’t want her to have any expectation that she has to squirt, otherwise she’s not going to be able to get it out of her head. And as you probably or hopefully already know, the mental side of things is the bigger part of getting her to orgasm in the first place. So if you tell her, “Hey, I’m gonna give you a squirting orgasm,” she’ll have all kinds of expectations for herself that is gonna not allow her to actually let go and actually have the orgasm. So that is going to work against you.

Now, when you set out, and you are actually going down there to maybe, say, use a G-spot or A-spot technique, and you go inside of her, your expectation at that point should be to just give her a vaginal orgasm, see what her body responds to. Is she very vaginally orgasmic? Or has she never had a vaginal orgasm before? These are things that you need to understand about her body first. And so you might spot with her G-spot, see if she responds to that. Go with her A-spot. Whichever one that she responds to the most as you, you know, continue to stimulate that area, again, your goal is to just give her a vaginal orgasm. And you’ll begin to feel the front wall of her vagina start to swell up. That’s the urethral sponge, the female prostate, and as it begins to swell, that’s the ejaculate fluid. And you’ll know that she’s getting close to having a vaginal orgasm.

Now, at the time that she has the vaginal orgasm, she needs to push out. And so oftentimes, women, which is understandable, will oftentimes clamp their PC muscle and not let the ejaculate come out which will kinda rob her of, you know, most of the orgasm. She won’t be able to have that release. She’ll hold back. It’ll still be a vaginal orgasm, but she won’t get that full release that comes with it, so you’re kind of up against, you know, her expectation of her own body. She doesn’t want to pee on the bed. She doesn’t understand oftentimes if she’s never ejaculated before that it’s okay to push it out.

And so what I’ll often do is I won’t have a conversation about squirting orgasms, but as I feel her getting close to having that ejaculation and having that vaginal orgasm, I’ll just say, “Push out.” Because she’s already so outside of her mind, she’s so into letting you take charge, take control, oftentimes, just the command, “Push out,” when you know she’s having a vaginal orgasm will get her to push out. And she’ll surprise herself and have the squirting orgasm. But if she’s never done that before, she may be resistant to that, so be okay with that. Because you’re at this point learning what her body loves, giving her a vaginal orgasm, which will already blow her mind, and then you can then introduce her to that idea that she can squirt once, you know, you have the conversation afterwards. And say, “Hey, you know, did you know that you were close to, you know, having a squirting orgasm, and if you just would’ve pushed out…” She’ll be like, “Really?” You know, and depending on her level of comfort with that, you know, then you might be able to help her with the idea of pushing out.

And so, what do you expect then when she does ejaculate? This is another question that comes up, because what you oftentimes she in pornography is not a great depiction of what a squirting orgasm looks like. Most of the time it’s not real. I’m not saying that there isn’t some real ejaculations, but a lot of times it’s just staged. One way that you can tell whether or not it is a real squirting orgasm is you can determine is it coming out of her urethra, which is her pee hole. That’s where female ejaculate comes from. That’s when she truly has an, you know, ejaculatory orgasm, and some porn-stars can. But oftentimes it’s more about creating a scene for men to masturbate to, so they will stage the ejaculation. So, all of the sudden fluid comes gushing out of the vagina, and that’s not what a squirting orgasm looks like. A powerful squirting orgasm could soak the wall behind me, but a typical squirting orgasm, at least starting out when you first give her one may just be a little dribble that comes out. And it may be because she almost kinda wasn’t even ready for it type of situation, or it might squirt out a little bit. This is something to build upon. This is something to expect when you’re starting out. Yes, eventually she may soak the bed, you know, or wherever you’re having sex at. She may be able to ejaculate a lot. She may be able to ejaculate often, but starting out, your expectation should be to give her that vaginal orgasm. See if she’s gonna let it out or not feel comfortable letting it out, and then build upon that.

I had a gentleman email me and say, you know, “I gave my girlfriend a vaginal orgasm. It was her first vaginal orgasm. She said she loved it, but just a little bit came out,” and he seemed almost disappointed by that. And I bring this up because this is sometimes what men will wonder, “Did I do it? Did I accomplish what I wanted to accomplish?” And I think that’s because us men are so goal-orientated that we overlook the whole concept is to become very close with her and, you know, direct her mind and body to the best level of pleasure that she could ever, ever hope for. Or many times women don’t even know they can have that orgasm, so you can absolutely blow her mind. But don’t ever discount the fact that you even got her close to a vaginal orgasm, and then if you gave her a vaginal orgasm, that’s even better. And if she squirted a little bit, and a little bit came out, that’s a great start. And then you build upon that because you’re going to know what her body responds to. You’re gonna help her understand that she can let go, and then you can even help her understand that as she strengthens her PC muscles, she’ll be able to even shoot harder and farther and have even stronger orgasms.

But, you know, you gotta take it one step at a time and not expect a woman to go from never having a squirting orgasm to just, you know, soaking the bed. I’ve seen it happen many times. I’m not saying it can’t happen, but that’s awesome when that happens. But it’s just as equally awesome when she has a great vaginal orgasm, and a little bit comes out. And if every time she has a squirting orgasm, it’s, you know, super-pleasurable, but only a little bit comes out, that is still a squirting orgasm. And that is still an incredible, incredible experience to give your partner. So, I hope that clarifies things up as far as what to expect when you’re first starting out giving any woman a squirting orgasm. Hey guys. Real quick before you go, if you like the content in this video, go ahead and hit the “Like” button below, and make sure and leave a comment and let me know what you think and ask any questions that you might have. And also, don’t forget to hit the “Subscribe” button, because I have some really cool content planned. I’m going to be coming out with videos weekly, and I don’t want you to miss a thing. So, thanks for watching, and I’ll see you in the next one.

My New Years Resolutions

By Jason Julius

This year will be the first in a long while that I’m making some New Year’s resolutions.

I’ve always been the type to try to improve myself a little every day, whether that be by reading to increase my knowledge or exercising to improve my health, etc., etc., and while I’ve done a decent job on reaching my goals, like mastering the art of female orgasms, I, like everyone, sometimes fail to see something through to the end.

As I get older, I find myself coming to the realization more and more that our time here is limited and there are no restarts on life (at least that we know of for certain) and I want to make sure I accomplish everything I can in the time I have.

It’s that “Live life with no regrets” kind of thing, ya dig?

And many studies have shown that with goal-setting, people who write down and share their goals with others are much more likely to accomplish their goals.

Specifically, with New Year’s resolutions, 46% of people who make common resolutions like weight loss, quit smoking, etc. were over 10 times more likely to have success as compared to only 4% who chose not to make resolutions…

So basically, I figured it couldn’t hurt, right? LOL

So here are my resolutions…

Learn German

I’ve always wanted to visit Germany and I just think it’ll be cool to be able to speak the language a little bit, or at least know it well enough to show people I’m making a valiant effort at it.

I’m using duolingo to learn it. It’s available on iOS, Android, and Windows phone and they have many languages besides just German.

Meditate every day

Who knew this thing called life could be so stressful? Recently I’ve been reading up on the huge benefits of daily meditation. There is basically no better way to relieve stress than to meditate.

Meditation can even be better than taking a nap as far as renewing your energy levels for the day.

If you’d like to give meditation a try, download the app “HeadSpace” for your phone.

It makes it really easy to get into.

I want to get at least 20 minutes of meditation twice daily.

Learn to play the guitar

I played a guitar in my late teens, but never really got that good. I’ve always loved music and it really helped shape the man I am today, and I’ve always wished I would have stuck with it, so I’m going to learn it now. (Side note: Being from Nebraska, 311 was one of my favorite bands growing up.)

Travel through Europe

It might seem a little weird to make a vacation as a goal, but I want to have it here to remind me not to make excuses and make the plans and just do it.

So, what are your resolutions?

Maybe to get more fit…

Learn a new skill of some sort…

Or maybe just something as simple as being more present throughout your day….

Whatever your resolutions, write them down and share them with someone to make you accountable; you’ll be way more likely to accomplish them.

Happy New Year,
Jason Julius

P.S. If you’re wanting to have a closer, more intimate relationship with that special woman in your life, I’ve got you covered.

Pick up my Blueprint course and learn exactly how to blow her mind in the bedroom!

It’s a resolution that you won’t regret!

More Sleep Equals A Better Sex Life

By Jason Julius

sleeping woman Scientists say that more sleep can make you extra “horny”, at least if you’re a woman.

A study conducted by a team at the University of Michigan Sleep and Circadian Research Laboratory found women who get an extra hour of sleep reported feeling a lot more sexual desire and were more likely to want to have sex their partners. Plus each additional hour of sleep increased the chances sexual activity with their partner by 14%!

And it gets even better…

Women who slept longer on average also reported getting wetter compared to women who slept less.

Pretty cool…

It’s no secret that getting enough sleep is uber important for overall health for both genders, but it’s interesting how it appears to have a direct impact on your woman’s sexual desire and sexual response.

It actually makes sense, because there have been some studies that suggest sleep can have a significant effect on hormone levels and we already know that when hormone levels are out of whack, that can have a negative impact on a woman’s sex drive.

So if you’re wanting your woman to be in the mood for sex more often, it’d be worth letting her sleep in more and see how it affects things.

I mean, it can’t hurt, right?

Of course, you also want to make sure you’re doing your part too and keeping your libido in check so you can keep up with your woman.

The cool thing about that is it’s super easy for us guys.

In fact I’ve already figured it all out…

All that is required is making a few small adjustments to your daily routine and you can start seeing a boost in your sex drive in as little as 24 hours.

If you wanna know more, check out this video.

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