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Hey, what’s up, guys. Jason Julius here. And in this video, I want to answer a question that I got, and that question is, can massage help her get to orgasm, or can you use massage as a means to get her to orgasm? And the short answer is yes, it’s a great tool to get her very present in the moment, very relaxed.

I remember when I first started learning everything that I could about female orgasms, 16, 17 years ago, there was a school of thought that massage was what it took to give her a vaginal orgasm. There was several teachers who would teach that you would massage her for hours and get her very deeply relaxed, and then go to give her a vaginal orgasm. Well, over time, I’ve learned that, while it is a good tool, if we want to be really aware of why that might work, it is to actually understand that when you give her a massage, you’re actually helping to get her mind into that deep moment of presence.

And when you consider the fact that the mind plays such a huge role in her allowing herself to have that orgasm, because remember we want to hit the accelerator by stimulating her in a certain way, figuring out what she likes, maybe it’s clitoral stimulation, G spot stimulation, A spot stimulation, and all those different ways that we can really hit the gas. But one of the biggest things is making sure that she’s lighting up on the brakes. And in order to get her into that orgasmic state, which is a state of presence, it’s a state of being in the moment, in order to do that, yes, massage can help break her pattern that she might be in of her physiology, what she’s focusing on in the meaning of the situation in such a way that gets her very present, but it doesn’t necessarily mean that massage is the only way to do that.

Once we understand that it’s getting her into that state that allows her to let off of the brakes, then we have a little bit more insight as to why a massage might be a great tool to help get her into that orgasmic state. Because if we didn’t understand that it might be that she still has the brakes on, anything that is hitting the brakes for her, whether she doesn’t trust and respect you, or maybe she’s worried about getting pregnant, all these different things that come from society, maybe she’s feeling a bit of shame in the moment, maybe she’s very stressed out, all these things can be a variety of ways that her mind might be hitting the breaks unconsciously. And if we’re not aware of that, then we just think the massage is going to get her to the orgasm.

It doesn’t matter how good of a massage you give her, if she doesn’t trust and respect you and want to give herself to you in that moment, then she’s really not going to let off the breaks in such a way where she goes into that orgasmic state and allows that orgasm to just happen naturally. So while I love massage as a tool to get her to orgasm, if we really want to understand what’s going on, we really want to think of it from a level of, what might be hitting the breaks, and how can I help her get more present? And by all means, massage is a great way to do that.

So I hope that answers that question. And if you guys have any more questions, leave them in the comments below. And hit the subscribe button if you like this kind of content, you want more videos. Make sure you check out all the other videos on my channel. And if you’re interested in learning more about giving your woman amazing orgasms, make sure and visit my blog at jasonjulius.com/squirt for a free educational video on how to do that. So I’ll see you guys in the next video.

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Hey, what’s up guys, Jason Julius here and it is so good to see all of your beautiful faces. In this video, I want to talk about how your emotional state can actually affect her orgasms. Now, after teaching guys for the last 15 years about how to give women amazing full body orgasms, I noticed one of the big differences between the guys who really get it and a lot of the guys who really aren’t able to really get her past those hurdles, is the guys that understand how much you need to help her get out of her own way to orgasm and get into an orgasmic state, so she can stop hitting the brakes in her own mind, and really get into the moment and really get into a flow state.

Now, in order to do that, there’s a number of ways we can do that but one of the biggest things that you need to think about that you might not be considering is how much your own emotional state actually affects her ability to be in the moment.

Now, what do I mean by that? Now, as humans have, what’s called mirror neurons, where our minds actually can mimic the emotional state of somebody that we’re around or close to and there’s nothing more intimate than being close with your partner in the moment, the sexual moment. Now, if you’re in your own head and you’re thinking a lot and you’re trying to do this technique and you’re being super logical, it’s not going to be so easy for her to be in the moment, feel the passion, and get out of her own head. So if you’re sitting there thinking about, “Am I touching her G spot? Am I out of my own head?” If you’re thinking a lot in general, and being super logical and not with her there in the moment, well, that makes it a little bit more challenging for her to let go, right? She should feel the passion, feel you getting into a flow state and that’s going to allow her and pull her into the moment as well.

So one of the best things you can do for even her own orgasm, along with your own performance and ability to get out of your own way, is to really focus on shifting your own emotional state.

Now your emotional state is really just a pattern of your physiology, what you’re focusing on, and the meaning of the situation. So one of the biggest ways you can really shift yourself into the moment is focus in on your breathing and slow down your breathing, particularly on the exhales. While you’re in the moment, you’re working down her body and you’re getting really excited and you’re thinking about stuff, one of the best things I tell guys is, you can learn a bunch of techniques for giving her orgasms and understanding her mind, but one of the best things you can do once you’re in the moment with her, is forget about all of it and let it just come out of you naturally.

If you’re sitting there fumbling around, wondering if you’re touching her G spot and wondering what she’s thinking, where her mental state is, there’s a likelihood that she’s in her head thinking a lot too. One of the best things you can do is allow her to feel from you that you are in the moment. You are enjoying her. You’re enjoying every second of taking her in. Enjoying every moment of being passionate with her, in that moment, and allow her to melt into the state that you’ve allowed yourself to get into by shifting your physiology, what you’re focusing on, so if you’re not focused on giving her the orgasms, but you’re focused on the moment and your own pleasure and the meaning of it, the meaning is relaxed and you’re in a calm arousal state for yourself, not for her, but for yourself to allow yourself to get there, that gives her permission to let herself go and be in the moment.

Then you can bring her into the moment with things like massage and dirty talk is a great way to really engage her mind and bring her into the moment and show her that you are there sharing that passionate moment with her. But if you’re stumbling around thinking too much, and you’re getting all logical in your head, which I’m a very logical person and I find myself in that moment all the time where it’s not always easy to be in a flow state like that.

But when we understand that we can shift our physiology, shift our breathing, relax our shoulders, relax our body while we’re slowing down and getting into the moment, shift what we’re focusing on, you know, not focusing on being in our heads, but focusing on letting go and surrendering and being there in the moment with her, the more we can get good at that, the more we’re going to have those moments where she just automatically has that orgasm and she doesn’t know where it came from. It comes from a very deep place within her, where she can let go of that prefrontal cortex, that thinking part of her mind, really get in the moment with you, and let her body do what it naturally wants to do and let go and have an orgasm.

I hope that gives you a little something to, you try out with yourself and give you a reason to kind of focus on shifting your own state, something that we don’t think a lot about, so that you can give her the most amazing orgasms and best experiences in the bedroom.
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